The whiteboard squeaked beneath my marker: “What makes a great leader?” The answers came quickly—bold, confident, brave, honest, funny. Year after year, classroom after classroom, the words changed—but the pattern stayed the same. The one word I believed mattered most—listening—never made the board.
Leadership Skills Begin with Listening
Listening Isn’t Just for Schools – It’s a Leadership Skill for Everyone
This is a call to every leader—parents, youth coaches, legislators, nonprofit directors, pastors, community organizers, and policy makers. If your words shape decisions… if your voice influences others… if people look to you for guidance—you are a leader. And the heart of leadership is not speaking.
It’s listening.
You don’t need a title to lead well. You don’t need a classroom to teach compassion. You don’t need a stage to be influential. What you do need is the courage to pause, to ask better questions, and to genuinely seek to understand someone else’s experience—especially when it’s different from your own.
Listening to Students, Staff and Communities
Whether in a classroom, a boardroom, or across a dinner table—people are speaking.
Every day. The question is: are we listening to understand?
“I have autism. I’m not broken.”
“This wheelchair doesn’t define me.”
“English is my second language. I’m not dumb.”
“I’m more than an athlete.”
If we teach the subject but forget the student, we miss the heart of the work.
As the first-day photos fill our feeds and supply lists get checked off, I invite every teacher, parent, mentor, administrator, activist, and policymaker to consider this:
What’s your classroom, boardroom, home, or community trying to tell you?
Have you asked the kind of questions that make room for honesty?
Have you created space for someone to say, “I’m struggling,” or “This doesn’t feel safe,” or
“I need help”?
Listen.
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Students who feel heard thrive. According to the Search Institute (2018), only 29% of students say they have a strong relationship with a teacher—but those who do are 5x more likely to be resilient, and more likely to stay engaged in school.
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Behavior = communication. The American Psychological Association affirms that challenging behaviors often stem from trauma, anxiety, or unmet emotional needs—not defiance.
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Connection improves outcomes. Schools that implement strong social-emotional learning practices see a 13% gain in academic achievement and a drop in absenteeism and behavior referrals
(CASEL, 2023).
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Making Caring Common – Harvard Graduate School of Education
Marya Patrice Sherron is a dedicated advocate, a proud mother of two incredible children with disabilities, and a valued member of The Arc of Indiana’s Board of Directors.